Are you still building them?
If you ever visited a beach, which most of us did when we were young, I am sure you would have experienced the fun of building sandcastles. Most importantly you did realise how quickly you were consumed by the project on hand, competing with other kids on the beach, building your special castle, completely forgetting that it would soon be pulled down by waves.
In real life, our projects are like that. We spend our energy on needless and futile projects we deem to be ‘’accomplishments’’ to us before we realised they are worthless.
Maslow Hierarchy of Needs
Life expectancy according to W.H.O. in 2016, is seventy-two years, and the greater part of these are spent in building up a career we believe will be good for us. Some of us are in a job we don't enjoy, a larger percentage are in a bad relationship, still many are chasing higher goals that they will never achieve, thereby making them more miserable.
Abraham Maslow (1908–1970) studied human being in what he termed Hierarchy Of Needs. He concluded how quickly we get satisfied with a need before we want to move to a higher one. This means in essence that our needs or ‘’projects’’ keep changing, as we move higher and higher to chase new ones in an endless cycle of needs and wants.
Some of these projects can really consume us, I mean taking up a chunk of our life, years before we realise we have been wasting our time in the fruitless project. So how do we differentiate whether our plan is really worth it or not? How much of our so-called hard work had meaning or direction in life?
The Choice Is Yours
The first thing to know and accept is that if you want your life to have any meaning and direction, you have the capability to make it so. The choice is yours, but first, you have to realistically access your strength and weaknesses. Then take massive action and be committed to the change you want. I say massive action because massive action means massive results or vice versa.
What are those issues or things that make our lives have meaning and directions so that we don’t just spend precious time in futile projects? You must also realise that anything worthwhile takes time, and some do require massive effort, like learning new things, changing our old ways, and building good quality characters along the way. Three essential things really, Happiness which include wellness, Financial Security and Relationship matters.
Happiness, what does it mean to you?
To make your life has meaning, we all want to live a happy fulfilling life. But this cannot be generalised because happiness means different things to different people. So you, as an individual have to define what it means to you, then you can live your life in relation to ensuring your happiness. But note that:
Happiness is simply not the absence of despair. It is an affirmative state in which our lives have both meaning and pleasure.
Financial Freedom, What Does It Mean To You?
Is it being able to live a standard life and provide for a family without debt? A life of financial freedom, to work for yourself, do what you want when you want and where you want? It is having enough to cover reasonable living expenses? Until you define what it means for you, then you can work towards it.
Financial freedom does not necessarily include having private jet, Rolls Royce, Rolex Watches and being materialistic.
A Relationship That Involves Your Wellbeing
A relationship that meets obligation without much ado. You must remember that quality of life is much more important than the quality of life. Enjoy your life with those you love around. Having a wholesome relationship is an important aspect of our wellbeing.
‘’Personal relationships are all fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows.’’ Ben Stein
Consider All These In Arriving At Meaningful Projects
Avoid fear-based decisions. Most issues in life come to a stage where you have to make decisions. If you are not yet sure, don’t rush into taking one. Remember that there are always options, and do explore all options before you take any decision.
Listen to your instinct and intuition. Reach out and ask for help. Ask and expect miracles in your day to day dealings.
There are no coincidences in life. If you want something, take effort to seek it and work towards it.
Enjoy your life because depression robs you of a wholesome life. Get busy living, make friends, learn new skills and express gratitude.
Changing oneself or lifestyles radically sounds easy, but it isn’t.
Don’t choose wealth or money above all else, especially over your health. Remember that health is the greatest wealth.
Having consideration for all these will go a long way to help you build a richer, quality life that will last and last, and which no waves will sweep away.