As A Writer, I Try To Find A Healthy Balance Between My Work And How I Connect To People.

Staying connected to relatives, friends and colleagues do wonders for our well being, RESEARCH has shown.

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Most of us, especially writers want to spend time alone and isolate ourselves because of the pressure to write every day. Personally, I get easily distracted, so I need all the concentration to be able to write and focus properly. It is therefore not easy to keep track of both my schedule and the need to socialise with others for my health sake. I know the importance of social connection for well being, and I am determined to work at it. After all, health is the greatest wealth.

People usually attribute loneliness with being alone. This is not the case. Some people enjoy their own company and prefer to live alone, but easily connect with others should they need to. They chat on end on the phone, arrange social outings when necessary, and relate to political and business matters easily. The chats and the connection make them happier, healthier and more productive. These sort of people are loners, yes, but not lonely.

‘’Language ……has created the word LONELINESS to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word SOLITUDE to express the glory of being alone.’’ Paul Tillich

Others, on the other hand, are quite the opposite. They need people around them to be able to interact. They are NOT happy unless they converse on face to face, and hence they make a huge demand on others to make them happy. This sort of loneliness really comes within. No wonder, research indicates that loneliness of this type can affect our immune system in such a way that it acts like we are under stress, affecting our blood pressure as well as how our body reacts to the symptoms of stress.

What I Do On A Regular Basis To Ensure I Interact With Others

Phone Connection — I connect on the phone with those that need to be connected to, first thing in the morning. I send messages like birthday greeting, and to respond to previous messages. I do this after my quiet hours on a daily basis. If I need to talk, I do so in the evening, just before going to bed. Between these two times, my phone remains unanswered, unless it is an important call that needs my response.

Excercise — I enrol for a group Walk-in-the-Park in my local area. They meet three days a week, but I only register to go for the walk two times a week. We chat, discuss politics and things of interest. And members usually offer advice on current trends, and even where to get a bargain etc. We all know each other, and we interact freely. It is a very vibrant Walk In The Park Group.

I try to add balance by spending at least one hour each time with the group. Park Area is one green place that you can breathe in the fresh air, and escape the London City air pollution. I find the air refreshing and stimulating while the serenity, beauty and tranquillity help me to reflect on the wonders of nature. It helps my writing as well.

Social Connection — I have some people that we go out for a proper restaurant meal, usually once a month. We try to go to various eateries, tasting different cuisine each time. We most prefer lunchtime and we do it in the weekday rather than the weekend. This is because we believe the restaurant will be less crowded. Occasionally we change gear, and just go out to shops, and places of interest like the Museum, Gallery etc, but we keep our social outing dates, and we all appreciate the company of each other.

Your Health Can Suffer If You Fail To Interact With Others

As stated earlier, the failure to connect with others is detrimental to our well being. These are the lists of what have been proven could result in people who isolate themselves from others:

High Blood Pressure — If you are a person that wants people around you to connect to, you find that your blood pressure goes up, as you think of not getting people to talk or connect with. An NHS research of 229 participants over four years period found that people who fail to connect with others have raised high blood pressure.

Drinking, Over-eating, Smoking As A Form Of Escapism — People who fail to connect with others usually delight themselves in a form of vice. This could be indulging in alcohol, over-eating, smoking or even drug as a form of escapism. This will further worsen their health, unknowingly to them, resulting in organ failure, and some chronic illnesses like obesity-related illnesses.

Lack Of Adequate Sleep — Here we are talking about sleep quality. Lack of focus during the day time can result in poor quality sleep at night, tossing round in bed unable to think straight. Lack of sleep can affect brain health, resulting in Alzheimer and Depression.

Overcoming Loneliness And Social Isolation

You will not believe it if I mention that the United Kingdom has a Minister of Loneliness. The 2018 statistics revealed that over 2. 2 million people live alone in the UK, an increase of 24% over the years. There is, therefore, a government-backed strategy to combat loneliness and social isolation.

Develop Your Own Interest

Reach out to people you resonate with, and keep yourself motivated. Is there an interest or passion that you could resuscitate? Link up with others with the same interest, there are always opportunities to connect like this.

Get A Pet

Perhaps you could combat your social isolation and loneliness with having a pet. Pets give unconditional love and fantastic companions. Meet up with others to interact on topics related to your pets. Form a pet forum, and have fun discussing with others what relate to your particular pet.

Develop Your Faith

Give all to God. Start your day with prayer. Have faith in life, have faith in people, and have faith in yourself. Expect the best, and the best will turn out. Choose to be happy in the Lord. He makes all the difference.

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